א.נשים רגישים.ות מאד
Each and every one of us is born with our unique biological-psychic set, which consists of infinite components. One of them is our innate sensitivity.
The trait of high sensitivity (Highly sensitive person - HSP, also known as a very sensitive person, hypersensitivity) is innate and as a trait, it has advantages and disadvantages. It should be noted that in the soul nothing is dichotomous and in the case of sensitivity it is not that a person is sensitive/insensitive but there is a continuum of sensitivity where at the top of the scale are defined those who are very sensitive women.
The main researcher of the field is Elaine Aron and her studies show that a fifth of the population is defined as having high sensitivity.
The manner of its expression is first of all sensory - a. Women who are very sensitive will react more powerfully to physiological stimuli - this can often be seen in children who react to a certain type of fabric, experience physical discomfort more quickly, are sensitive to loud sounds, blinding light, textures of foods and more. The processing method of such women is deeper and more fundamental and as such it also requires more cognitive and emotional resources and indeed it has been found that high sensitivity is reflected in differences in the nervous system and therefore highly sensitive children will often mature emotionally more slowly than their peers.
As you can see, the sensory dimension here is significant, but an equally important dimension is derived from it - the emotional dimension. Here there are several styles of types. A. Women who are sensitive to the outside will often pay more attention to subtleties in social situations, will understand interpersonal dynamics in depth, will recognize other's feelings more accurately, will respond more strongly to the other's needs, etc. A. Women who are inwardly sensitive will experience their feelings more powerfully, will be more vulnerable, critical of themselves, will need more recovery time, time with themselves, and more. Here too, it is a continuum and not a dichotomous division. Mostly, very sensitive women will be creative, empathetic to others, with great attention to details and will process situations in a deep and rich way.
Also, this feature is accompanied by the reaction of the environment to it, when the environment's understanding of the feature and its consequences has a significant effect on the way in which the person will experience it. Many times such children (who become adults) will be labeled as shy, dramatic, closed, cowardly - depending on how the sensitivity is expressed. Of course, this labeling has great significance in building self-worth and identity.
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A. Very sensitive women and treatment
פעמים רבות א.נשים רגישים יגיעו לטיפול, לעיתים מתוך רצון לגדול ולהתפתח ולעיתים מתוך מצוקה ותחושה שהם לא מצליחים להתמודד עם האופן שבו הם חוויה את המציאות. הדבר הראשון והמאוד משמעותי בו טיפול יכול לעזור הוא להכיר שאני כזה, לתת שם לחוויה, לקרוא לילד בשמו. ההבנה שיש שם, שאני לא לבד ושמה שאני חווה הוא לא זר או מוזר היא סופר משמעותית ומרגיעה בפני עצמה.
אז אחרי שהייתה הכרה ברגישות, יש צורך לעבור להכרות עם הרגישות. מתי שמתי לב לכך שאני חווה דברים בצורה עוצמתית יותר מאחרים? איפה זה תרם לי והפך אותי למוצלח ואיפה זה פגע בי וגרם לי להרגיש לא בסדר, דרמטי, מפוחד? איך אני לומדת להתנהל בעולם עם הרגישות שלי, כיצד אני מתווכת אותה לעצמי ולאחרים על מנת לא להיות בסיטואציות שבהן היא נוכחת באופן חזק מדי עבורי? מה יכול לעזור לי במצבים בהם אני חווה עוצמה רגשית חזקה כדי להתמודד? איפה הרגישות שלי היא מתנה עבורי ועבור העולם? כמובן שכל אלו ועוד הם חלק מתהליך של הכרות עם עצמי באופן הדרגתי ומעמיק, כחלק מאינטראקציה טיפולית שיש בה מרחב בטוח המאפשר התבוננות פנימה אל תוך עצמי.
רובד נוסף בתהליך הוא ההבנה כיצד הרגישות שלי והאינטראקציה שלה עם הסביבה השפיעה על עיצוב האישיות והמנגנונים שלי. כבכל תהליך טיפולי, יש צורך בעיבוד תהליכי של חוויות עבר דרך נקודת מבט חדשה אשר מקבלת את הרגישות כפי שהיא, עם מינימום שיפוטיות וביקורתיות. פעמים רבות ילדים רגישים מאוד, במיוחד בנים אך לא רק, יקבלו פידבק שלילי על רגישותם ובמהלך השנים או ינתקו את עצמם מחלקים רכים בתוכם או יפתחו נוקשות פנימית כלפי חלקים אלו שכן הם לא מתקבלים על ידי הסביבה. כמו כן פעמים רבות יתפתחו רגשות כמו אשמה, תחושה שאני מכביד.ה על האחר, שזה לא בסדר להרגיש כמו שאני מרגיש.ה- בעוצמה, במגוון הרגשי.וגם כאן, מדובר בעבודת עומק עדינה ותהליכית בתוך מרחב טיפולי מיטיב על מנת לפרום פלונטרים פנימיים מהעבר ולהצליח לתת מקום לכל החלקים שבי בהווה.
חשוב לציין- כל אדם או אישה שמגיעים לטיפול מביאים עימם עולם ומלואו ושכל אינטראקציה טיפולית מתהווה בדרכה הייחודית. אצל א.נשים רגישים מאוד הפוטנציאל לגדילה והתפתחות בתוך טיפול הוא גבוה שכן מדובר במרחב אשר מאפשר ביטוי לא שיפוטי ואף מחזק של רבות מהתכונות של א.נשים אלו.
A. Very sensitive women and addiction to cannabis
Throughout my years of working with women with addictive patterns, I have noticed that many of them meet this definition. I will try to briefly clarify several points that can explain this relationship.
Our ability to contain ourselves develops in interaction with the significant figures during the period of initial development. When these interactions take place in a benevolent way, the baby turns the ability to self-soothe and emotional regulation. However, when a baby is born with high sensitivity many times there will be many failures of these figures in containing the emotional strengths of the baby and therefore the baby will have difficulty developing these abilities. Into this space enters the use of marijuana, which produces a significant relief in emotional flooding and suddenly the world is experienced differently - more pleasant and simpler. However, after a certain period, the effects of marijuana fade and sometimes smoking actually increases the emotional intensity. Naturally, there is a longing to experience the same pleasant relaxation from the past and therefore the use continues and perhaps even increases, which may lead to the development of a strong dependence on the substance.
In addition, very sensitive women can live their lives in a reality that they experience as too powerful, intrusive, overwhelming. Starting with physical contact, through the physical environment and ending with daily interactions - every encounter with reality, internal and external, is a potential for a difficult, tiring and repulsive experience. In such a day-to-day experience, every moment of relaxation is priceless and that's exactly where the use of marijuana comes in, which creates a kind of distance between me and my emotional experience, numbing, numbing. Many times the initial experiences of use will be so pleasant and relaxing - suddenly the world is not experienced as overwhelming and there is something relaxing and magical about it. However, after the effect of the substance wears off, reality is experienced again in a rough and powerful way, and from there the road to further use is short.
For very sensitive women, therapy can often be a significant lifeline that helps them learn to regulate their emotions in the face of reality. Since many times their experience in the relationship is that their feelings are burdensome, illegitimate, too powerful, excessive, it is very important to build a close and beneficial therapeutic relationship.
Therefore, the therapeutic relationship is often a significant anchor within the ability to deal with unhealthy substance use patterns. The more a highly sensitive man or woman can trust a significant figure who knows how to deal with their sensitivity well enough, the more they will be able to give up their habits of use, transfer their dependence on the substance to dependence on the therapeutic relationship and succeed, through processes of internalization and growth, in learning to deal with their sensitivity better in the world.
A. Women are very sensitive and mind-expanding substances
Mind-altering experiences are powerful and as such have tremendous transformative potential but can also be dangerous and disruptive in the bad sense of the word. This statement is even more present in A. very sensitive women whose way reality is experienced by them is different from most people.
Psychedelic experiences can take us into the dark depths of reality, into the most delicate and thinnest veins of existence. The delicate and rich texture of a flower's petals, the endless range of colors at sunrise or sunset, the never-ending meanings that exist in every interpersonal interaction. For sensitive women, this can be a significant and formative experience, since the experience can be accompanied by admiration and wonder that can continue to accompany them throughout their lives and help them experience the many subtleties of everyday reality in a different way. Thus, what until the psychedelic experience could have been experienced as a burden or a burden can become a source of joy, curiosity, happiness and gratitude for being sensitive in the world, for the powerful qualities of sensitivity and the possibility of experiencing the infinite depth of the world with its help. Also, when substances from secondary consciousness are taken in a supportive therapeutic environment that allows for emotional work, it is an opportunity to learn to work with and process my emotional strength in a healthy and nurturing way.
Another strong quality of psychedelia is creativity - the possibility of experiencing things in a different way, from different perspectives, expanding the way I experience and think about the world. Many of the artists in the world are very sensitive women and experiences that change consciousness can be refreshing and full of life and color for them, enriching their inner world in countless new forms and introducing new and fun dimensions into their creative lives. Even for highly sensitive women who do not work in the creative field, there can be a similar experience, since the creativity of highly sensitive women can be expressed in many ways, not only through art - science, therapy, education - in all these fields, a connection to creativity can be a great advantage for them .
Another and important experience that can be a journey from a sleep of consciousness for very sensitive women is actually not the way of their experience - the possibility that others close to me will experience the world in a more similar way to me. When the environment of a highly sensitive woman undergoes a psychedelic journey and becomes aware of the infinite subtleties of existence, she can better understand the way in which a highly sensitive man or woman experiences reality. The same is true for the good and pleasant part of these subtleties - the beauty inherent in every moment - and also for the challenging and difficult parts of a psychedelic experience. In situations where our consciousness is expanded, we are open and exposed to the world and sensitive to every subtle shift that occurs in our environment, an experience that can be overwhelming and challenging. Suddenly the barking of a dog sounds like a strong and jarring attack, faking the guitar playing is unbearable and physical discomfort can oppress and overwhelm. However, precisely when women who are not very sensitive have these experiences, they can connect to the daily experience of women who are very sensitive and develop patience, empathy and acceptance towards it.
But, of course, if women who are not sensitive can have such experiences on a journey of changing consciousness, this is doubly true for women who are very sensitive. And here perhaps lies the most significant challenge in consciousness-expanding experiences, but a. Women are very sensitive - they may be emotionally overwhelmed more easily, experience reality as intrusive and threatening more frequently and more strongly, be more sensitive to any jarring of reality (jarrings that are always present, even in the safe space and the most protected). In Winnicott's language - they will have more difficulty being in the continuity of the experience (going on being) and will experience much more impingement from reality, which can make the psychedelic experience difficult to the point of being unbearable. Therefore, it is even more important for very sensitive women to go through consciousness-expanding experiences in safe and protected spaces that will know how to provide them with the appropriate sting - both in terms of the physical environment and in terms of the women who accompany them in this process and will be able to help in the event that they find themselves in distress. Ensuring such an environment can minimize the chance that the experience will be too overwhelming for them.
